Jessica's incredible words below led me to consider something. She has dealt with a truly sad situation by creating for herself a disciplined frame of mind that is healthy and positive. With regard to love, I struggle to maintain a similar outlook, because I have always considered love to be a shared reality, created as a joint effort between two people. In Jessica's story the experience of love is highly subjective, in the eye of the beholder. She has defined what the experience is, and the way she will allow it to effect her. And her definition (from what I gather) is not necessarily shared with the Peruvian.
My friends, what kind of reality is love then? Do we try to understand the situation or do we try to create and define the situation? And if so, is this a process that occurs independent of the other person?
Thoughts?
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Annie, I've been thinking about your question a lot... here is what I got. One time someone told me that we're often apt to force "either/or" decisions into our thinking, when maybe "both/and" explains the truth better. So your question of accepting an absolute reality or subjective one i think is maybe paradoxically both. In my situation for example, there are some things i cannot change and to keep my life healthy, i have to "move on from" in a sense (very absolute). But there are other things that i choose to do or feel regardless of my partner's reaction (more subjective i suppose). I guess its back to the serenity prayer to help us know which is which...
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